5 Questions to Ask on the First Date

Picture this: you’re sitting in a restaurant. You have a glass of Pinot Grigio perfectly chilled on the table. It’s dinner time and you’re waiting for the date whom you’re meeting for the first time to arrive. What could go wrong?

First dates can be awkward. Getting to know someone for the first time isn’t always fun. It’s hard to know what to talk about. Which topics won’t make your date run for the hills? Or maybe you want to cover certain topics that will determine whether this person could be a potential significant other.

Kassidy Keegan is a 20-year-old college student who recently went on a first date.

“They can be so scary because this is where the first impressions are made,” Keegan said.

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In a perfect world, the date goes amazing and the rest is history. In reality, that isn’t always the case. These topics go a little beyond the “what’s your name?” and “where are you from?” These are topics that can lead to conversations that allow the date to open up a little bit more.


  1. What’s your go-to drink?

This is a good question to ask before ordering drinks. It’s interesting to see how people respond and if they have any bad history with alcohol. Sometimes learning a person’s go-to drink can lead to funny stories from their college days.


2. Where have you traveled?

Traveling is a light topic, but it is one that could possibly lead to planning a trip together down the road. People who want to travel are open to adventuring, being challenged and learning about different cultures.


3. What are your future plans?

“I feel like asking what future plans are is an appropriate first date question,” Keegan said. It’s better to find out now rather than later whether your future plans match up. This question can determine whether there is a possibility of a future together.  


4. What is a usual day for you?

This can be a little bit more personal than asking your date where they work. Maybe they spend their morning at the gym or maybe they are a dog walker. Everyone spends their average day a little differently.


5. What are your closest friends like?

Most people love to talk about their friends. It makes the situation less awkward because friends make life easy. A person usually has funny stories about the people in their life, so this can lead to more questions.  


These questions might not be for everyone, but almost all will spark a conversation or lead to more questions. First dates can be nerve-wracking, but  they don’t need to be. They should be light, fun and filled with possibilities. And the best thing: If it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t need to go any further than the one dinner date.



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